Subject: Do you want to be less reactive?
Subheader: New course starts Tuesday
Learn to Recognize and Manage Reactivity with La-Shelle Lowe-Chardé is enrolling now. Course starts on Tuesday. Click here to sign up. |
There's something you might not know about me, %user.name_f%.
Years ago, before I discovered Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I would get into 'right fights'.
I'd painstakingly explain why I was right and the other person was wrong.
Right fights are so common. I hear people engaging in them often.
What does a right fight look like?
Well, that can vary…
"Really? You forgot?" or,
"We agreed we'd discuss it if we were going to spend more than $50" or,
"You said you'd pick up the milk on the way home!"
When I used to play this game, I was like a chess player, deep in thought about what move I could make next to make sure I could win. 🤔🤦♀️
UGH!
Why do we fabulously flawed human beings do this?
There's usually a few layers.
Initially, it can be a fear-driven response. Perhaps we're worried about the consequence of the forgotten milk, or how we'll be perceived when our friend arrives for tea and we have no milk to go in it.
Usually there are some needs that haven't been met.
Trust. To be seen. To live in a shared reality. And often ultimately, to know that we matter.
Getting into a right fight doesn't build connection.
It usually does the opposite and creates dis-connection.
Why do we do it?
Our default responses take over — those neural pathways are well-grooved.
NVC helped me see what was sitting underneath my reactions. And enabled me to make different choices.
So despite my default reaction sometimes still trying to pull me into a right fight, nowadays, I don't go there (hardly ever!).
Sometimes it's uncomfortable.
But here's what's incredible -
Once I figured out why I wanted to be right, I let go of trying to be right.
I realized that being connected to whoever I am talking to simply feels way better than being right.
And not insisting I'm right usually frees up space to understand what the other person might need. Or why they made the choice they did.
Then, I'm usually able to help us find a resolution that cares for us both.
I want you to know, it is possible.
Would you like to learn the steps to do this, %user.name_f%?
Starting on Tuesday next week, La-Shelle Lowe-Chardé is teaching our community how to Recognize and Manage Reactivity.
You'll discover that:
💞 Connections can grow
🙂 Being right starts to matter less
🧠 New neural pathways can be formed which means…
⏸️ Your default reactions can change
>> Here's the link to find out more →
We won't send any more reminders after this one, %user.name_f%. So if you've been thinking about signing up, now's the time!
Not sure if it's for you? Try out the first session for free.
We hope to see you there.
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Warmly,
CEO and Co-Founder, NVC Academy
CNVC Certified Trainer
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Sometimes we respond in ways that don’t align with what’s important to us. Did you know it’s a habit you can change? Learn how in LaShelle Lowe-Chardé’s upcoming course, Learn to Recognize and Manage Reactivity. Starts Tuesday. Register here.
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